My father-in-law, a 75 year old ex-engineer, military cook turned chef for the past 45 years who still works hard yet lives a fairly uncomplicated life (and who will NEVER retire nor get a computer) asked me tonight, “Christina, are people getting crazier than they were 50 years ago?”
He asks, “Why do you think that is?” Again, my response was quick … “TMI” and realizing he would have NO idea what that meant, quickly added, “Too much information …” and I added … “… too quickly. And lack of human connection.”
Giving the term “crazy busy” new meaning. Can being too busy cause insanity? Yes, the clinician in me answers. I see it everyday.
Dis-ease of our physical and mental health. Symptoms of ADD, anxiety, depression, sleep problems, substance abuse and dependence, high blood pressure, heart attack, immune system dysfunction to name just a few.
Dis-ease in our relationships, both at home and at work. Too “connected” to electronics and not enough real conversation, dialogue, curiosity or listening to each other. Distractions rob us of our ability to connect with other people by being present, to deeply listen and care.
Dis-ease of our cognitive and intuitive ability to think, create, solve problems.
On a functional level, remember this: “Your brain is not designed to HOLD IDEAS, it is designed to HAVE IDEAS.”
If you paid to think, piling more on or “stuffing 10 lbs of s*$@” in a 5 lb bag” will compromise your most important asset – your brain!
When we are juggling such a tremendous amount of information coming at us from the outside AND all of our worries, fears that come from the inside, we get “crazy busy” and can’t get it all done, much less do anything well. Much less see obvious solutions because there’s too much crap in the bag. Stop thinking. Play. Laugh. Breathe deeply. Be.
Getting things done and doing them to our satisfaction allows our brain to release serotonin (the neurotransmitter of satisfaction) and dopamine (the neurotransmitter of engagement, interest). Connecting with someone also cleans out the bag and creates a space for solutions, creativity and inspiration.
Can I see a show of hands if you’d like to experience these feelings once a day? Twice a day? Several times a day?
Solution #1: Slow down. Say “no thank you” more often. Or don’t say “yes” so quickly, “Let me think about it and I’ll get back to you” is a respectful response that buys you time to give it thought after you look at your calendar and respond rather than react. Bonus points for public accountability and post it below!
Solution #2: Choose a KISS from Suzie @Aceconcierge.net. Commit to taking action on just 1 or 2 of the 35 Tips to Stay on Track and TAKE ACTION. Keep track of the time you save and the peace of mind you gain after just one or two weeks (whichever feels more do-able to you).
Solution #3: Practice saying, “If it’s not my genius, it’s not my job …” and consider hiring a Suzie (or Suzie herself @AceConcierge.net) to outsource a task or two that’s a brain drain and a time drain on your productivity!
Have a great week!
PS. Call your Father in Law (or other-in-law, sibling, child, significant neighbor, friend or mentor) and let them know you are thinking of them and just how much they mean to you. They can’t hear you think … say it out loud!